Welcome.
Vent away. This is the place to do it and most here will understand and sympathise with your dilemma as they too share your experience.
It is quite a shock to learn the the truth about the truth but we are here to support and help you any way we can.
It is fantastic you have your spouse supporting you.
I am a 4 year fader. I went to my new hall once after moving. I even knew some of the people there but no-one has been back to check on me or ask if I am OK.
I would say don't go at all if you don't want to. Spend some time here researching. It will be much more enlightening than anything at the KH.
Amelia xxx